It seems there is opportunity everywhere these days.
Opportunity to piss someone off royally, that is.
Chances are that sharing your ‘real’ thoughts, will upset someone.
Here’s where that gets slippery.
Some people relish the opportunity to pee in your cheerios and will say, do, or post something solely for the purpose that they know it will incite anger in you, and yet do it anyway – plus they’ll say it makes them feel better, or ‘free speech’, so that must be ok, right?
Even if it knowingly hurts someone else.
That person is an asshole.
There will also be people who fear saying what they really feel, and instead bottle it up, thinking that they are ‘doing the right thing’ so as not to compromise a social standing, work position, family structure or some other elephant-confined-with-a-rope type thing.
Saying the wrong thing gets you in trouble.
Saying nothing gets you in trouble.
So what can you say?
How about when you feel pissed off, hurt, afraid, angry, confused, scared, alone or some other emotion I’m omitting?
For starters, you can say what you really mean, without being mean.
The only way to be heard, is to listen.
The only way out, is through.
This is where so many are stunted right now, because we can’t all scream and shout about how mad we are, and how we want change, and how blah blah blah blah blah ………. without also accepting the pain of that.
In order to get what you want, accept the pain that comes with it.
Everybody wants to feel better.
Nobody wants to do better.
The only way to get what you want, is by making sure others get what they want.
The only way that happens, is if we become conscious of our selves.
Radical self-awareness is the ‘new happy’.
Because happiness, as an end, is no end at all, it doesn’t exist, and therefore creates suffering in the individuals searching for it.
Children are like little tyrants who will scream until you give them ice cream, because they haven’t learned that life isn’t solely about seeking their own happiness, just yet.
Teenagers are masters of deception and just developed enough to get their ice cream through cunning negotiation, like doing their chores, or some other task, in order to make sure the powers that be stay happy, while in the end still getting what they want.
That’s where the majority of the population is … they just want what they want, and will do what they have to do to get it, because at least they will be happy …
However, there is a better level, and it’s called #adulting.
Forgoing your own pleasure, for the pleasure of others, which will coincidentally, bring you pleasure.
An adult can forgo the ice cream, and instead watch that same child eat their ice cream, and receive the same amount of joy, or more, than if they had eaten it themselves.
That’s what we call growth, people.
And we need everyone to grow.
Learn how to give up your ice cream, and we’ll ALL be happier for it. 😉
Be Well – John
Changing the way Life is done.
Mindset. Fitness. Nutrition.
P.S. Here are 4 more ways you can become happier and healthier:
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