I had one of email readers reach out to me recently and let me know that she’s really enjoying reading my emails.
She also went on to let me know that she is ‘hoping to approach a friend she knows’ about my services here.
However, she’s hesitant to bring this up to her friend because she doesn’t know what to say, perhaps, without appearing pushy or insensitive.
I get it …
You see someone who YOU KNOW could use a different approach, and you desperately want them to WAKE UP and GET IT … right?
I know … Me too …
I think everyone who cannot defend themselves physically and mentally is a liability to all of us, because it forces others to pick up their slack …
Kids and the elderly get a pass … however, adults can and should hold themselves to a better standard when it comes to their health.
Now, as we know, people don’t usually change unless it’s the only option.
As the saying goes … You can lead a horse to water …
That said, here’s a couple ways to approach them …
1. Start a conversation
- At some point ask them if they’re enjoying life …
- That should lead to some kind of reaction …
- Where you can read the body language and words to assess whether or not to keep going …
- Some people ‘think’ they’re enjoying, some are ashamed to say they’re not, others will come out and say no …and many are content
- A select few are truly enjoying … they tend to be quite comfortable in their own skin.
- If they aren’t enjoying, that’s huge for them to admit …
- See if you can find out things they can’t do, that they wish they could …
- Then ask how committed they are to changing it (scale of 1-10) …
- 9’s and 10’s are ready …
- Lower than 8 … ask: ‘What has to happen for you to get to a 9 or 10 … what would make it easier for you?” …
- That tells you right there what they need … and the fear that’s holding them back
2. Share Your Story
- Tell them that you’ve been thinking a lot about your own purpose here on the planet.
- What you’re meant to do to serve others
- And wondering if you’re doing everything possible to be mentally, physically and spiritually fulfilled while you’re here.
- So as to be fully present and capable in your work/whatever they do
- Then ask them “What is your purpose?”
- This will lead to some kind of dialogue where they tell you more.
- If it’s not concise and takes them longer than 30 seconds to answer, then they don’t know, which is not a bad thing
These questions provoke emotion … that leads to real answers, and reasons for change … you’ll have to feel them out, and proceed as you see fit.
Depending on the person, you may have to go deeper with them … that is, if you really care about them and THEIR goals …
People want to know (or at least believe) that you have THEIR best interest at heart … they can smell when it’s in YOUR best interest.
So, to the woman who wants to send her friend my way (and maybe anyone you know too) …
Show them you care enough to listen to their needs, and let them know you know someone who can serve those needs 🙂
Be Well – John
Changing the way Life is done.
Mindset. Fitness. Nutrition.
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1. Podcasts
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